Videos

April 15, 2025

Navigating Holy Week Through Spiritual Trauma and Healing (Bonus)

In this special bonus episode for Holy Week, I share a deeply personal and vulnerable story about my journey through spiritual trauma and healing. Last year, I wrote an open letter on my personal blog, disclosing the challenges I've faced and continue to face as a complex trauma survivor within…

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April 12, 2025

Respecting Freedom and Dignity: Lessons from Pope Francis

To violate someone's freedom is to violate their infinite dignity. So many survivors have experienced love and spiritual authority - no matter how well intentioned - in ways that infringe on or outright violate our dignity but we did not have the language to name our experiences. Listen to EP…

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April 9, 2025

Reclaiming Our Dignity: Healing from Spiritual Abuse (with Paul Fahey)

In this heartfelt conversation, I sit down with Paul Fahey, a limited licensed professional counselor, retreat leader, and catechist from Michigan, USA. Paul shares insights from his work in pastoral counseling for Catholics who have been spiritually abused and his efforts to educate ministers to be more equipped in their…

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March 31, 2025

When Reverence Becomes a Barrier

Putting family or Church (or even God) above Truth will result in idolatry, for even our image of God in such a situation will be our own projection rather than the true God who reveals himself to us on his own terms as Truth.

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March 26, 2025

Five Reasons Why Catholic / Christian Trauma Survivors Struggle with Healing

In this episode, I delve into the unique challenges that Catholic and Christian trauma survivors face in their healing journeys. Drawing from my own experiences and observations, I outline five specific reasons why faith can often complicate trauma recovery for believers. From the difficulty of accepting abuse within 'good' religious…

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March 17, 2025

The Overwhelm of Moving Too Fast #podcast #traumainformed #healing

Have you experienced when healing itself becomes overwhelming for your nervous system? Why might that be? Listen to or watch EP 148 | What Do We Do When the Healing Journey Overwhelms Us?

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March 12, 2025

What do we do when the healing journey overwhelms us?

In this episode, I address a profound question from a long-time podcast listener and religious sister in Southeast Asia regarding her healing journey. We explore the intricacies of feeling productive and empowered at times, facing moments of deep uncertainty and doubt at others, and when questions of authenticity, accountability, and…

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March 3, 2025

The Essential Link Between Truth and Healing

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Feb. 26, 2025

"They Did Their Best" can harm more than help

In this episode, I discuss a common challenge faced by complex trauma survivors: the notion that those who harmed us did the best they could. I emphasise why it's crucial not to accept this idea too early in the healing process. We need to focus on acknowledging the harm and…

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Feb. 17, 2025

Deconstructing means questioning assumptions you never questioned before

Part of the journey of complex trauma recovery is interrogating assumptions that we had accepted uncritically in the past because now we can see injustice and harm which we had not before.

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Feb. 12, 2025

Why Deconstruction is an Essential Part of Complex Trauma Recovery

In this episode, I delve into the challenging and often misunderstood topic of deconstruction, especially for those of us healing from complex trauma as persons of faith. I share my own journey and how deconstruction has been an essential part of my healing process. We'll define what deconstruction means in…

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Feb. 3, 2025

Experiencing Setbacks in our Healing from Complex Trauma

Healing from complex trauma isn’t a linear journey — setbacks happen. Sometimes it feels like I’ve regressed, but I’m reminding myself that it’s actually a normal part of the process. That it also means I’m growing more attuned to my pain and the things that trigger me. That I’m able…

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Feb. 3, 2025

Experiencing Setbacks in our Healing from Complex Trauma

What Happens when Setbacks Happen? In this episode, I open up about the challenges of experiencing setbacks in the healing journey. I share a recent personal experience that triggered a significant emotional response and discuss the importance of recognizing and managing these setbacks. By acknowledging the dynamics of our internal…

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Jan. 23, 2025

Facing the Loneliness of the Healing Journey

A message for those of you feeling this right now!

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Jan. 20, 2025

The Pain of Good Intentions Backfiring

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Jan. 20, 2025

When you harm others in spite of your best intentions

The Painful Realization: Faith Practices Alone Cannot Heal Our Deep Wounds In this episode, I share a deeply personal story about the painful moment when I realized that having faith and spiritual practices alone couldn't save me from the dysfunctional patterns in my life. I discuss the inadvertent impact of…

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Jan. 14, 2025

Unseen Scars - The Silent Struggle of Spiritual Abuse

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Jan. 6, 2025

Recognising Unsafe Waters of Spiritual Abuse

Learning about spiritual abuse is an important part of accountability and responsibility as leaders, whether we are parents, ministry leaders, spiritual directors, catechists etc.

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Jan. 1, 2025

Learn about Spiritual Abuse in A Catholic Setting (Resource Sharing)

Understanding Spiritual Abuse: A Time-Sensitive Resource In this video, I briefly discuss the importance of understanding spiritual abuse, particularly if you're on a healing journey from trauma and its effects on your relationship with God. I emphasise how spiritual abuse can distort our view of God and create obstacles in…

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Nov. 19, 2024

3 Dimensions of Love: God, Self and Others

The fullness of our relationship with God cannot happen apart from our relationship with others and with ourselves. While we can distinguish between our relationship with God, others, and ourselves, these connections are deeply intertwined. Complex trauma affects all of them. It impacts our connection with God, our relationship with…

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Nov. 16, 2024

Genuine Love and Attunement Reveals God's True Nature

I've learned so much about love and attunement through my experiences with my dog. Every moment of truly connecting with her reveals something new—something that heals my nervous system and brings me closer to understanding God's love. When I attune to her, when I give and receive love without conditions,…

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Nov. 14, 2024

Trauma Blocks Us from Encountering God Within

God transcends us—He's beyond us—but He's also incredibly immanent and present within us. When God draws close to us, how does He connect with us except through the very person, the very body, the very being He has given us? He speaks to us not only through our thoughts but…

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Nov. 11, 2024

You Are Loved As You Are Right Now

God is saying to me—and to you: “Do you know that I love you completely and perfectly right now? Not some future, more polished, more perfect version of you, but you, exactly as you are at this moment. With all your flaws, doubts, and whatever stories you tell yourself—I love…

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Nov. 6, 2024

How Does God Heal Complex Trauma?

How Does God Heal Complex Trauma? In this episode of the Becoming Me podcast, I delve into an intriguing question posed by one of my listeners: Can healing of complex trauma happen through a personal encounter with God where He reveals His true nature to us? Building on a previous…

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