In this episode, I discuss a common challenge faced by complex trauma survivors: the notion that those who harmed us did the best they could. I emphasise why it's crucial not to accept this idea too early in the healing process.
We need to focus on acknowledging the harm and injustice inflicted upon us before considering the limitations and reasons why our abusers acted the way they did. This is a journey of radical honesty and acceptance, facing uncomfortable truths without bypassing our emotions.
Join me as I explore why truth is essential for healing from trauma and how to reframe our understanding of love and compassion.
00:00 Introduction
02:00 Internalising Dissonance and Self-Blame
03:13 Scripts and Roles for Survival
04:37 The Capacity for Love and Attunement
08:07 Holding Opposing Truths
10:06 The Importance of Radical Honesty
18:21 Navigating the Healing Journey
24:36 Radical Acceptance vs. Resignation
27:52 Concluding Thoughts and Encouragement