We live in a high stress environment and our bodies may constantly be in hypervigilence. This means that we are usually disconnected from our internal states. This sense of disconnectednes is everywhere. How can we then learn to develop secure attachment as adults? Find out more on Episode 98 |…
Why are we so often triggered by specific comments people make about us? Perhaps, on some level, we believe it to be true. If we are grounded in our core, we are better able to see what is true about ourselves. When this happens, we will be less triggered and…
The deeper we go into this journey of authenticity and integration, the more we are able to work through the different layers of ourselves. This becomes more instinctive as we progress. We find it second-nature to pause and give ourselves space to respond, instead of reacting. Find out more on…
When we look at all the different parts of the interior journey we can get overwhelmed. It is essential to know our “home base” - the fulcrum of a lever, the hub of the wheel which is the STILL SPOT around which everything else turns and moves. This is the…
Are you at the point of your journey where you feel overwhelmed by memories or feelings of vulnerability with certain groups of people? If you are, first acknowledge that this is grace. Grace has brought you to this point. I invite you to listen Episode 96 | 3 Steps To…
A huge part of my healing journey includes Miko, my dog. Miko has been, and continues to teach me how to be unabashedly myself and to ask shamelessly, in the strong and deep knowing that I am loved. Find out more on Episode 95 | Healing Through Delight, Beauty, Rest…
In this Episode of the Becoming Me Podcast, I share about three things that helped me in my healing journey. I also share about the shame and guilt I felt during this season of struggling to learn how to rest, play and just delight in the things that gave me…
In this video I look at three blocks that disciples trying to deepen our relationship with God often encounter. We often think of these as spiritual blocks, but in my experience, they have a lot to do with attachment trauma. Spirituality rests on the bedrock of our humanity, it is…
When your interior journey begins to deepen it needs to be nurtured with more silence and solitude than before. You will need to choose between this new inner life and the various other things you fill your time with. Find out more on Episode 94 | When Your Interior Journey…
What is safe companionship and why do we all long for it? When we find someone with whom we can be our authentic selves, we start to feel safe? Do we have someone who makes us feel safe? Can we perhaps be that safe space for ourselves? I invite you…
No matter what our vocation is in this world, we have to learn to enjoy what we have and build that secure trust with ourselves and with God. Once we do that, we are able to be held safely. Find out more on Episode 93 | Loneliness In Singlehood and…
For many aspiring disciples of Christ, “self-care” is a guilt inducing word. We think it is the opposite of laying down our lives and thus is at most a concession for our weakness. How do we see this problem through the lens of interior integration? In this video I offer…
Do you have the support or a loving space to make the journey into discovering who you are outside of your communities, families and relationships? Could you perhaps be that support for someone who is also making this journey into wholeness? I invite you to listen to Episode 92 |…
When we are able to grow in freedom and authenticity, we are also able to love authentically. Our decisions and life will also be impacted and the outcome also will become more loving. I invite you to listen to Episode 91 | "Doing The Right Thing" vs Being Authentically Loving…
Forgiveness - like love - is a religious and spiritual precept that we struggle to integrate into real life and many of us end up spiritualising forgiveness which harms us instead of binding up our wounds. In this video I share three signs that may indicate you are spiritualising forgiveness…
What does being authentically loving look like? Loving authentically and freely requires us to look, not just at the act, but what's going in me, as I love in this situation. It is about the person, and not just the act. Find out more on Episode 91 | "Doing The…
Conviction alone can’t get you where you want or need to go. Eg: I want to live a life that gives God glory - I want to serve God / his people etc When we don’t do the work of interior integration we often end up hiding behind our convictions…
Sometimes, we may see our bodies as a liability. We see them as something that gets in the way of getting our daily tasks done. If we stop and think about it, we see that our bodies are wonderfully designed. God has given us unique bodies with limits by design.…
Many of us still carry the wounds and traumas of our childhood. We did not have a good relationship with our emotions. Unfortunately, this is usually because our parents and caregivers were not able to attune to our emotions. Now, as we move along this interior journey, we learn to…
When we embark on this interior journey, we start to realise that there are different aspects of ourselves that are disjointed. This journey is about integration. Once we learn to better integrate the different parts of ourselves, we are more able to hold space for ourselves and for others. We…
Complex trauma survivors who are also Christians have an additional tension and challenge to overcome in our healing journey. “What about loving the enemy? Especially when the enemy is my family member(s)?” This is why integration is necessary - this is complex and delicate, it is both nature and grace,…
We all struggle to integrate the different dimensions of our journeys, especially the spiritual interior journey and the human interior journey. They are meant to be integrated. We need to allow healing of our fragmented selves to happen so that we can better embody a faith that has both dimensions…
Are you constantly busying yourself? Is there something that you are not willing to face. Sometimes, we become busy to avoid having to face ourselves. To live intentionally, we must first make space for ourselves to be and to ponder. Then only can we truly be free in our responses.…
Day 30: “What’s an interior integration coach and why are you one?” I often get asked how what I do is different from spiritual direction, counselling/therapy and life coaching. In this last live of the 30 day challenge series I explain what interior integration specifically addresses and how the kind…